Update: January 2017
So far this year…it’s been amazing! New clients and more money! But as far as self-improvement goes, I’m finding myself doing more to learn and grow spiritually. I’ve always believed that it is the foundation of a solid life and business. I’ll be keeping this post updated throughout the year for more self-growth and improvements that I’m making in my life.
Original post date: December 30, 2016
The last stretch…
It seems like this year has just flown by and we’re pulling up on the last day. What does that mean to you? If you are one of those people who aren’t happy about how this year as turned out thus far, there’s still time to do something about it.
There’s always some area in our lives where we desire a change. It may be our finances, it may be our physical health, it may even be our personal lives that we want to see in a better light, but the question is: What are we gonna do about it?
Thinking back to the beginning of this year, I was twiddling my thumbs trying to figure out what my next move was going to be. All I can say is: Thank God for clarity! Clarity has been my best friend this year because I could see my vision in a crystal ball and all I needed to do was take certain action steps to manifest it.
Now I’m not saying that I didn’t have any challenges because I did. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t had challenges in business. In fact, the one thing I found most challenging was keeping my blinders on. What I mean by that is I would always look at what other people in my niche were doing, and then I would compare myself to them.
This discouraged me in a lot of areas but as I continued to do my “self-work” I discovered that the greatness within me hasn’t even hit the surface yet. I’m telling you this because when you start comparing yourself to other people, you begin to look at yourself as being inferior.
When you remain focused on what gifts you are dying to give to the world, you begin to see yourself in a class of your own.
Sometimes I think about how much work I put into this year and how unsatisfied I really am. At first, I felt like I wasted a huge amount of time being busy but doing nothing to progress. Even though it looks that way, I still progressed because the knowledge I have now is different from what I had at the beginning of the year.
So, even though it may look bleak at times, it’s always important to remember that your “right now” does not determine your “next month” or your “next year.” Eliminate excuses and be determined to press forward even when it gets hard or doesn’t seem like anything is happening.
What should you be doing now?
First of all, a positive attitude is definitely needed at all times. Your journey will only be what you make of it. Negativity will surely drain you and deter you from finding solutions, overcoming obstacles, and limit your opportunities. It may sound like I’m preaching to the choir but it’s essential to hear these things over and over so that it gets imprinted in your mind.
I want to briefly discuss two ways to work on your self-improvement: Building Self-Esteem and Spiritual Growth. Sometimes there is so much going on in our lives including kids, household, business, the workplace, family situations, and we don’t always make ourselves a priority. Neglecting ourselves means neglecting our self-care.
How can you build your self-esteem starting now?
Let’s look at the dodge theory. I created this as a way to help you dodge negative situations making it an indirect way of building your self-esteem.
1. Don’t compete where competition isn’t necessary. Everyone is in the running to get ahead. But if your efforts go unappreciated far and few in between, then chances are, it’s not a healthy competition. I can recall many times working my butt off to get ahead and could barely get a “thank you” most times. Make sure your environment stays positive and remove yourself from anything else.
2. Beware of debbie downers. We all know people who complain, whine, and nay say all the time. Limit your time with these people as much as possible. If you are trying to move ahead, it will be difficult for you with this kind of vibe lingering around you. Remember, misery loves company.
3. Leave the past in the past. At times you will be frustrated and may have been already. You might want to cry, scream, beat the wall, and that’s ok because you’re human. Whatever pain you’re feeling should not transform itself into fear. If you fail, treat it as a lesson learned. Failing is growing. Over the past years I’ve failed a numerous amount of times but I can honestly say, there was a lesson in every single failure.
How can you move past the challenges of spiritual growth?
Some people feel as though spiritual growth is difficult in a world that is run by power and money, but I think that’s BS. When you know who you are and who the Creator of the Universe is, you know that it’s a decision that starts from within. You also know that it’s going to take you places you’ve never been before.
1. Looking inward. This calls for a means of examining yourself: Your thoughts, experiences, motivations, beliefs, relationships, decisions, and feelings. This way you can look at traits that are sustainable and traits that need to be discarded. If you want to know how to change or adjust the way you act and react to situations, then I would consider learning the skill of introspection.
2. Self-actualize. Develop your full potentials. You have innate strengths, qualities, and abilities that need to be nourished and cultivated so that you “show up” in the world. This is all apart knowing your purpose and having a heart-centered relationship with God.
3. Find the meaning. Are you aware of the meaning your life has or are you simply existing? When you know that your life has meaning, you have something to look forward to such as a goal or destination. It wasn’t until I started seeking God and let go of the frustration of not having things “my way” that I found my purpose and started living on purpose. There is power in your spiritual being.
I’m hoping you have the best day ever and achieve the desires of your heart. xo